Life Sucks…Sometimes | Unlock How to Uplift Yourself
October 15, 2024
Life sucks…sometimes. Life can be very cruel & hard. Well, this is something controversial to say for us. At CECA, we are all about positivity. However, we are also big on being real! And if you think about it, there’s something positive about sometimes saying life sucks. Let us walk you through why this is and how admitting that life sucks sometimes will free you even more.
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Life sucks sometimes
You know those awfully long, devastating day(s) on which you feel the worse? That feeling where you can’t handle anything and you only want to bawl your eyes out.
Your mind is going a hundred miles an hour thinking about all the things that are going wrong and that are not working out the way you want them too.
Well, I know them really well.
Sometimes you need to say to yourself: ‘My life sucks’. Or you want to hear from your best friend: ‘It sucks that you’re having a hard time.’ Sometimes you don’t need any help or tips you need your “sucky-life-feelings” to be recognized.
You do not need to be happy 24/7 and you also can not be happy 24/7, we are human after all.
Make way
By saying or hearing that your life sucks at the moment it will give you some space and time for a breather or an emotional dump of your feelings.
By recognizing the fact that you are having a rough time at the moment you also say to yourself that it’s not going to be this way forever. You recognize that you are just having a rough patch and like all other things, this rough time will also pass.
So, by admitting/recognizing your life is not happening the way you want it to, you are making way for yourself to change this feeling and to recognize your sad feelings (great for your self-love)
“Happy-life-feelings”
However, I wouldn’t be writing all this for CECA if I weren’t going to tell you how to shift your negative “sucky-life-feelings” to positive “happy-life-feelings“.
Now after recognizing the fact that you are having a hard time, you need to change your thoughts and feelings. Yes, this is something you are in control of.
Your thoughts and feelings are all dependant on you. It’s about how you react to certain situations and how you ahndel your feelings. Do you let your feelings lead the way or are you taking control and decide what’s going to happen next?
Well exactly, you are taking control now. How do you do that, you ask?
You are going to stop dwelling over your problems/fears/feelings. You have felt those emtions and now you are going to turn these emotions into active actions towards feeling better. You have got to take control.
Simply by changing your attitude. Going from:
“my life sucks”
“I’m having a rough patch now, this period doesn’t define my whole life”
“I’m the worst person ever; I can’t do anything right.”
“I’m trying my best, there’s nothing more I can do differently.”
If there is something that you can do differently, then you should go and do that for yourself out of self-love and growth.
Take it step by step
Still confused about how you should deal with the “shitty-life-feelings? Let me sum it up for you.
The first step is kind of obvious: having a hard time, feeling lost and/or stuck, not knowing what to do or what you want.
Second, you have to recognize and/or admit that you are having a hard time. “I’m not doing okay and I’m feeling really unhappy.” This will give you a big relief in the first place and it will make way for positivity to come in.
Third, cry, scream, eat, or talk your feelings out. If you want to recognize your feelings, you have to feel them first in order to do something about it.
As a fourth step it is your choice what you’re going to do with the space you just made for yourself: are you staying in all your sorrow feelings for yourself or are you going to use them actively to feel better again? Choose wisely.
Once you’ve chosen to turn around your energy, you’ve already felt a change within your energy. Stay in this and act even more through this chosen positive energy.
Praise yourself for picking yourself out of that negative space into a positive space. This is a really brave and hard thing to do.
Some other tricks that help me
This approach will help you if you want it to help you. But if you need some more support just like I sometimes do. Then I’ve got these extra tips that help me get out of my “sucky-life-feelings” that will hopefully help you as well.
Be nice to yourself: this one is obvious, but also greatly forgotten. Be nice to yourself, just like you would be to your friend. Lower the pressure of being perfect, go for satisfaction, not perfection.
Do something that you know will pick yourself up: drink a cup of tea, go for a walk, bake a cake. Just do something, but only do something that you know will truly make you happy, not only comfortable and that’s important! So only watch an episode of your favorite series, not a whole season, in this way, you are not setting yourself up for disappointment in yourself.
Feel completely lost: I’ve already said it before, however, feel your feels!!! Feel that you are having it hard, by feeling them you acknowledge them and you give them space and then after recognizing them, they will make way for positive change within. If you keep on rejecting your sad feelings, they will eventually get worse and become too much for you to easily handle like right now.
Praise and brace yourself: Praise yourself for picking yourself up. Then you brace yourself for a potential hard time that’s coming your way. Because life is full of ups and downs, start accepting that that’s the way life is. Don’t fight this curve, flow with it.
There are a lot of reasons why your life sucks and they are all valid, but it’s about your approach and actions towards these reasons and what you are going to do about it.
My dear CECA fam, let me remind you that it’s okay to have a hard time and that your life sucks…sometimes, however, you’ve got the power in your own hands to turn this around and feel better and get better. Life is one big adventure full of ups and downs, acknowledge this while being nice to yourself and you will come a long way.
